September 30, 2004

Elevated liver function…

Filed under: Uncategorized — Tamra @ 11:09 pm

I was just notified that Rani’s blood tests came back all great except she has elevated liver function. Does that mean anything? What could it mean?

We took her back in for another blood draw:yuck to test for Hep B. I am praying that she doesn’t have it since my baby hasn’t been vaccinated for Hep B. Any ideas? I’m trying not to worry. :worried

September 25, 2004

The last straw…

Filed under: Uncategorized — Tamra @ 11:09 pm

Last night as I was working on the graphics for this blog and the children, I thought, were watching TV. Apparently they weren’t because Rani dumped an entire bottle of kids shampoo on Ollie’s head. And if that weren’t enough, she then proceded to get into our science stuff and top it off with plaster of paris! :yikes That was it! The last straw!

So today they had to be in my sight at all times. If one had to use the bathroom we all went; if I was cleaning the kitchen we all had to be in the kitchen. And what do you know, we had a whole day without destruction! I’m liking this. The problem is, that it’s practically impossible. They want to play and I want to clean; the two just don’t fit together well ALL DAY. :worried I may have to pull out the baby gate but I’m saving it for a last resort.

Please welcome the Caldwells!

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I just finished setting up a blog for the Caldwell family. They are adopting from Russia and leave on Tuesday!

Please pay them a visit! The Caldwell Family

Sad news for the Laroques

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Please head over to visit the Laroque Family and offer them prayers and hugs. They just found out that the twins they have been trying to adopt are not orphans and they won’t be able to bring them home! Please send them your sympathies and well wishes. :sigh

September 23, 2004

Rani’s Eyes

Filed under: Becoming her mom — Tamra @ 11:09 pm

I was finally able to get in to see a specialist about Rani’s eyes on Monday. He completely overlooked all the testing that had been done in India, because it was completed in India. As if the testing couldn’t possibly be accurate.

So of course the diagnosis of Congenital Nystagmus can’t hold water without a bunch of tests. Mostly because there is no family history. I completely agree with him, but there is just something about the I’m-the-Dr-and-what-I-say-to-do-is-law approach that I just hate. *sigh* I guess I’ve just been too spoiled with midwives.

So…the plan is first an MRI to check for brain irregularities and tumors…and then some other test, that he said the name of so fast I missed it, where they put a contact attached to wires on her eye to monitor it. She will have to be anesthetised for both tests. The MRI is scheduled for October 16th at 8 AM.

I’m sure they will find that all is normal and she will once be diagnosed as having “congenital” nystagmus. But it will be on American soil and will therefore hold some water. I just hope it’s not too traumatic for my baby. The bloodraw to retest for HIV was bad enough! :soapbox

The Destructo Duo strikes again…

Filed under: Becoming her mom — Tamra @ 11:09 pm

Wow! I thought that these two had tried all they could try around here but boy was I wrong!

In the past four days they have dumped and entire quart of sugar on the floor, smeared peanut butter all over the house, poured glasses and glasses of ice water on the floor, emptied every drawer in my house again, sprayed all of my best perfume on themselves, poured out my favorite shampoo, chewed up and thank goodness DIDN’T swallow 6 glycerin suppositories, dumped another entire bottle of softsoap down the sink, flushed 3 full rolls of toilet paper, ripped apart two of my flushable toilet bowl cleaning pads, poured yogurt on the couch, and flooded the kitchen by plugging up the sink and “washing” the dishes! And all of this because I was trying to “get something done around here”

That of course doesn’t include all the hitting, pinching, biting, and scratching they’ve inflicted upon each other either.

You know I’ve never been an advocate of playpens or other such “locking” devices but I’m starting to seriously wonder if that’s what I’ll have to resort to to get anything done. They will grow out of this, but will we all survive until then??? :worried

The honeymoon is over…

Filed under: Becoming her mom — Tamra @ 10:09 pm

Wow, this weekend all heck broke loose at my house!

I’m not sure how coherent this post will be as I’m suffering from stress :wink but I’ll do my best.

My husband went out of town last weekend for a few days with my oldest son. Saturday was the festival of India and it was wonderful as you saw in the last post.

Sunday this child became a different kid! We had to go to church without Dad, something we have not done since she’s been home, I am the nursery worker in our church here and one little girl needed me to hold her(I do every week), and Rani tried to push her off my lap and I didn’t let her. This last “straw” literally pushed her off the edge. She started shrieking! And of course the “advice” from the other moms started coming. I just wanted to say “What do you know about it?”

I finally got the child’s mom to take her daughter so that I could comfort mine. Rani was extremely upset. After a while she started calming down and watching the kids again. She was intent on watching one little boy who was pushing a toy down the baby slide over and over again. All of a sudden Rani jumped up and ran over to take the toy before he could get around the slide to get it. I, of course, made her return the toy which caused a tantrum like none I’d ever seen. It was so disturbing that I had to leave the nursery with her!

Another adoptive mom in my church who is very shy saw me and came over to talk. She told me that it’s normal at this stage for them to start to test you to see if you’ll really keep them. She says what I’m doing is great (I was rubbing her back and rocking her) and that if I keep it up, it will get better. It was nice to hear that. It’s easier if you know it’s a normal part of the process. Kind of like breastfeeding and growthspurts. If you know it’s coming you can deal with it better.

Anyhow, that night DH came back home, and it was still tantrum after tantrum. DH was really getting upset and even told her to “STOP!” At this point I picked her up and took her into her bedroom. I held her very tight and started saying loudly to her the things I thought she wanted to say to me. “Say to Mommy, ‘ I don’t like it when you don’t let me sit where I want to….I don’t like it when you hold Oliver…..I don’t like it when you hold H. at nursery…I’m afraid you will like her more than me and take her home instead!!!”

About halfway into this harangue she stopped screaming and started sobbing. Her little body was wracked with sobs. I rocked her and told her that “I don’t want H. I want you! You’re my girl and you will be forever! I flew clear across the world for you and I’d do it again over and over! You are mine and I will never leave you!!!”

It really helped and she has been able to tantrum less. It’s difficult because I was finally helping Oliver to gain control of himself and then Rani starts. She has started up the “NO!” to every single request. And I will have to write another post about the utter destruction of my house that these two are conducting. I’m one exhausted and emotionally drained mommy right now.

September 19, 2004

The Festival of India

Filed under: Indian Culture — Tamra @ 4:09 pm

Last night we took Rani to the Festival of India. There was wonderful Hindi music, yummy channa masala(my favorite), and other good food! My favorite part was the little 5yo girl, Radika who danced. What an angel!

Rani got to meet my friend Cheryl’s daughter, Olivia, for the first time! Olivia is 6 weeks older than Rani and she came home about four weeks before Rani. We are hopeful that the girls will become fast friends. We live about an hour away from each other. Here is Rani meeting Olivia.

meeting olivia

It was so fun getting together with other adoptive parents of children from India. Here is a pic of Rani, Anuja, and Olivia together.

3girls.jpg

September 18, 2004

HUGE BIG GIANT CONGRATULATIONS to

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Carrie Ostrea of Family Bound!!!! After months and months of waiting and waiting she is finally going to Russia to get her baby girl! She leaves the 26th! Woohooo Carrie!!!!

September 17, 2004

My ballerina

Filed under: Becoming her mom — Tamra @ 11:09 pm

Ever since Xander was three years old and he stepped into that first ballet class filled with little girls I’ve wondered if I’d ever have my own ballerina.

Well, the answer is yes folks! Just look at my tiny girl all in her baggy size XS dance clothes. LOL her ankles are so tiny! She did so well in class. She went right in and started dancing right away. I’m so glad I decided to put her in after all. Originally I was going to do a wait and see approach. She looked beautiful and stole the teacher’s heart!

Rani ballet

And here she is with her best friend Alena making faces and looking so cute! Alena is only 2.5 but LOVED the class as well. They looked likes two little pixies dancing around the teacher. Rani also enjoyed looking at herself in the mirror. She’s definately not vain at all! :wink

Rani/Alena ballet

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