May 2, 2005

She’s my daughter!

Filed under: Uncategorized — Tamra @ 12:05 pm

It’s been nine months since we picked Ahrana up at Basundhara orphanage. There was a time before we got her that I KNEW she was my daughter. There was a time after we got her that I wondered what we had done? Adopting a three-year-old was so much more difficult than I ever could have imagined.

Rani had a wonderful attachment to her caretaker, Shanti. Therefore, after her grieving, she easily attached to me. I, on the other hand, had a difficult time attaching to her. Everything she did bugged me. I got angry at her for the most ridiculous things. Most of the time I was able to hide my anger and annoyance and “fake it”. I’ve been “faking it” for nine months.

This Saturday, May 7th, will be the two year anniversary of the day we officially asked to adopt Rani. I still can’t believe it’s been so long! And just this week I noticed that she isn’t driving me crazy anymore!!! I can’t believe it! She feels like my own! I guess it just took time to get used to her eccentricities. I’m so happy about this change and can’t believe it is finally here. I thought It would never come!

So to celebrate, I’d like to post some of the things that I LOVE about Rani!

*Rani is a dancer. She is beautiful and lithe and graceful. I always loved dancing but was always clumsy. I admire the grace and beauty in her and hope that I can nurture this talent.

*Rani is a singer. I too am a singer and it is wonderful to teach her songs and hear her singing them to herself. She sang in Oriya when she first came home, and now she sings in English!

*Rani is an amazing learner. She allready knows her colors, shapes, can count to 15, speaks better than any four year old I know, and is beginning to recognize and write letters of the alphabet. She is very bright!

*Rani can CLEAN! This sweetie keeps her room spotless and is always ready to help out with anything I need. Usually she is ahead of me, taking my dishes to the sink, and throwing away my garbage without being asked!

*Rani is loving. She comes up to me several times a day, hugs me, and says “I love you, Mom”. She is very kind to her brothers and is a good friend to her friends.

So, I’m excited to say that I have a daughter! And I am very happy and proud!