August 24, 2006

Love Thursday

Filed under: Uncategorized — Tamra @ 12:29 pm

It’s Love Thursday at Chookooloonks!

I took this photo of my good friend Penny and her dh last night.  If that doesn’t say love I don’t know what does.

 

  

Rwanda Update…

Filed under: Uncategorized — Tamra @ 9:30 am

Dissapointing news.  We finally got through to the Ministry in Rwanda and have been told the reason we have been denied is that we don’t meet the requirements.

These are the requirements:

No more then 2 children already in the home

No divorces EVER

One Parent must be over 35

And parents must have been married for more than 5 years.
We are pretty confident that she made up these rules on the fly just so that she could deny us.  We have spoken to someone who actually works for her and saw our dossiers and she says she’s seen other families go through that didn’t meet those.  She says the Ministry is denying 50% of the petitions to adopt.

So Rwanda is officially out for everyone in our group.  Those poor poor babies. 🙁

August 21, 2006

No Orphans in Zambia?

Filed under: Africa Adoption,Uncategorized — Tamra @ 10:35 am

I’ve been emailing orphanages in Zambia and aid organizations that work with orphanages in Zambia and the thing I’m hearing the most is that there are no true orphans in Zambia.  How can that be when they have the highest percentage of orphaned children in Africa you ask?  Well, because they count “orphaned” children as children who have lost one or both parents.  Also in Zambia the extended family automatically has legal custody of the children when the parents die.  Most of the kids are only in orphanages for their baby years and then are reunited with extended family at age 2.

If it isn’t one thing it’s another right? 

August 19, 2006

Thank You Katurah!

Filed under: Africa Adoption — Tamra @ 12:38 pm

I spent all night, well till 2am, searching on the internet for orphanages in Zambia and I cam across this fabulous blog!  Lucky Beans is a blog of a wonderful woman who is living in Zambia with her husband three children and volunteers at an orphanage there.  I made a comment in her blog about needing information on adoption from Zambia and she replied right away that she did know of adoptions being done there fairly easily and that she would do her best to help me get in contact with the right people!  How exciting!  Thank you again for your help Katurah, you are awesome!

August 18, 2006

Love Friday?

Filed under: Uncategorized — Tamra @ 11:45 pm

I feel really bad that I missed Love Thursday at Chookooloonks. So I know I’m a little late but I have such a great love photo that I dearly want to post it!  Here is a pic of miss Rani with her favorite pal and best friend, her brother Oliver.  Rani is almost a year older than Oliver but you’d never guess it by their size. 🙂

 

 

OK OK Just one more…..:-)

 

 

August 17, 2006

Letter to the USCIS in the email

Filed under: Africa Adoption — Tamra @ 11:29 pm

I was notified by the USCIS office that to change countries I need to send in a letter signed by both me and my husband, and an addendum for my homestudy from my social worker.  Dave and I signed the letter and popped it in the mail today, and my SW is working on the addendum and will send it over in the next couple of days.

And that seals the deal folks.  Zambia here we come!  I redid my blog graphics to reflect our new situation.  Sadly I had to remove lake Kivu, and I replaced it with some of the beautiful falls in Zambia.  I’m sad to leave Rwanda behind…but excited to begin a new venture!  Both my husband and myself feel happy with this decision.  We truly have hope and faith that it will work out the way it is supposed to.  Of course now my dh keeps talking about going on a hunting safari in Zambia.  EEEEK, no way!

August 16, 2006

Eek! I sent the email!

Filed under: Africa Adoption — Tamra @ 3:19 pm

I sure hope this decision is the right one!

Dear Ms. D—-,

 

Due to unforseen circumstances regarding adoption in Rwanda, we are feeling it necessary to choose another country to adopt from.  I have been to the State Dept. website and read the adoption requirements and find them favorable.  I am wondering there is any way to change our country our approval is sent to before it is reviewed? 
 

We would like to change it from Nairobi Kenya, to Lusakas, Zambia.
 

Sincerely,
 

David J. and Tamra G. Hyde
West Jordan UT
801———-“

I just want my girls!

Filed under: Africa Adoption — Tamra @ 1:40 pm

I found this poem on the Vietnamese Princess blog.

Some would gather money
Along the path of life
Some would gather roses
And rest from worldly strife
But I would gather children
From among the thorns of sin
I would seek a golden curl
And a freckled, toothless grin
For money cannot enter
In that land of endless day
And roses that are gathered
Soon will wilt along the way
But oh, the laughing children
As I cross the sunset sea
And the gates swing wide to heaven
I can take them in with me!

That poem describes how I feel in more way than one.  When I began this Rwanda journey I had high hopes that I would find two more lovely girls to gather.  Now with the trouble we’ve been having and all the unanswered questions about the process in Zambia, I’m starting to doubt.  I have been so strong…but today I feel my eyes welling up with tears at the frustration of not being able to figure this out.

It used to be that the Lord spoke to my heart…he told me that persuing the Rwanda adoption was the right thing to do.  I have followed unfailingly.  Now with everything up in the air I feel like he is leaving it up to me.  I don’t want the responsibility that brings.  I have been at peace because I knew I was on the Lord’s errand…and now I’m scared and sad and doubting.  What should I do???  Should I transfer my I-600a to Zambia or should hold out and stay with Rwanda?  I can’t for the life of me make a decision.  Help?

August 15, 2006

No news was bad news

Filed under: Africa Adoption — Tamra @ 10:51 am

Well, we heard from the couple in our group that was calling this morning.  The Ministry contact was in the field and didn’t have the dossiers in front of her to look at.  She didn’t seem to want to discuss the matter and seemed overwhelmed.  It also seemed as if she had denied the petitions simply because it was overwhelming to deal with all five at once.  They aren’t 100% positive but they can’t get any new information because she told them to call back NEXT WEEK!  Doesn’t she understand that the clock is ticking for us and we can’t afford to waste a week?

On a sidenote.  I found this fabulous site with pictures of kids from Zambia.  This little gal is so sweet.  There are kids everywhere…it doesn’t really matter where we go….just as long as we get off our hineys and GO!

 

girl in Zambia

 

Zambia?

Filed under: Africa Adoption — Tamra @ 10:04 am

Well, so far no news on the Rwanda front.  One couple from our group was supposed to make the call this morning…but they haven’t posted anything yet.  I hope that no news does not mean bad news.

The leader of our group has been talking with the staff of Mothers Without Borders who have been working with us on the Rwanda Project.  They mentioned another country that might be a viable option for us.  Zambia.  I know absolutely nothing about Zambia except that it is in Africa.  But MWB says that the adoption process there is pretty good.  The only paperwork needed is a homestudy, birth/marriage certificates, and the I-171h(which I’m still waiting for).  The process should take less than 3 weeks and we can leave earlier.  They are talking September 17th.  That is only a month away!!!  I can’t go until October 1st.  I’d have to send my paperwork ahead and meet up with them when they are almost finished to get started…but that would be OK.  Oh and the government officials speak English in Zambia rather than french. 😉

I’m feeling conflicted…when I pray I get the answer that it doesn’t matter to the Lord which country I choose.  That there will be children for me either way.  I definately like the idea of staying for less than a month rather than more than a month.  But I have a great love for Rwanda and it breaks my heart that I might not be going there….

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