May 2, 2005

She’s my daughter!

Filed under: Uncategorized — Tamra @ 12:05 pm

It’s been nine months since we picked Ahrana up at Basundhara orphanage. There was a time before we got her that I KNEW she was my daughter. There was a time after we got her that I wondered what we had done? Adopting a three-year-old was so much more difficult than I ever could have imagined.

Rani had a wonderful attachment to her caretaker, Shanti. Therefore, after her grieving, she easily attached to me. I, on the other hand, had a difficult time attaching to her. Everything she did bugged me. I got angry at her for the most ridiculous things. Most of the time I was able to hide my anger and annoyance and “fake it”. I’ve been “faking it” for nine months.

This Saturday, May 7th, will be the two year anniversary of the day we officially asked to adopt Rani. I still can’t believe it’s been so long! And just this week I noticed that she isn’t driving me crazy anymore!!! I can’t believe it! She feels like my own! I guess it just took time to get used to her eccentricities. I’m so happy about this change and can’t believe it is finally here. I thought It would never come!

So to celebrate, I’d like to post some of the things that I LOVE about Rani!

*Rani is a dancer. She is beautiful and lithe and graceful. I always loved dancing but was always clumsy. I admire the grace and beauty in her and hope that I can nurture this talent.

*Rani is a singer. I too am a singer and it is wonderful to teach her songs and hear her singing them to herself. She sang in Oriya when she first came home, and now she sings in English!

*Rani is an amazing learner. She allready knows her colors, shapes, can count to 15, speaks better than any four year old I know, and is beginning to recognize and write letters of the alphabet. She is very bright!

*Rani can CLEAN! This sweetie keeps her room spotless and is always ready to help out with anything I need. Usually she is ahead of me, taking my dishes to the sink, and throwing away my garbage without being asked!

*Rani is loving. She comes up to me several times a day, hugs me, and says “I love you, Mom”. She is very kind to her brothers and is a good friend to her friends.

So, I’m excited to say that I have a daughter! And I am very happy and proud!


3 Responses to “She’s my daughter!”

  1. Angel allen Says:

    Hi Tamra,
    We are home with Jasmine Babbu. We arrived home with her on June 18th 2005. I like to read your blog when things are going rough. It makes me feel better to know that you went through a lot of the same things. Some days I wonder what I have done….did I do the right thing adopting her? Then other days I know this was meant to be. Adopting a 4 year old is not easy…you know well.
    Anyway, I just wanted to let you know that although I am no longer on Ichild…I do read your blogs often. Keep posting. Love the pictures of her in her dancing outfit.

  2. cluttergirl Says:

    What a beautiful post! I am so glad you finally attached! 😀 What a gorgeous daughter you have to, she just beams and radiates out of the photos.

  3. cluttergirl Says:

    ack! that was “what a gorgeous daughter you have TOO” ! oops on typos!

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